Author: codedbelles

Enough

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.” – Maya Angelou

This quote is something that I need to continue to beat into my head. I constantly want to prove myself to everyone including myself. I feel that if I were more willing to believe in myself that I can bring my stress down. You are who you are and that is enough. If people can’t handle it then that is their own problem. You don’t need to prove your self-worth to anyone. Not everyone is going to like you and that is okay. Just know that you are ENOUGH.

“Kindness Project Rock” by CodedBelles is shared under a CC by 4.0 license

Put Your Foot in Your Mouth

One of the worst things you can do is intentionally or unintentionally say something that can offend or upset someone. I know I have many moments like this where I automatically regret it and profusely apologize because something came out wrong. I am an out loud thinker, so sometimes my mouth will move faster than my brain. Instances like that really make me feel stupid especially when it’s in front of a lot of people or someone you care about. The idiom “put your foot in your mouth” is so truthful, because that is exactly what I want to do when I say something without thinking.

“To put your foot in your mouth” by attanatta  with a Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic license.

Sibling Gaming

I’m going to go a little bit off topic with this post than what I usually do. My older siblings recently introduced me to a game on PS4 called “Overcooked.”  I seriously suck at any video games and this is no exception. If someone were to walk into their apartment when we are playing you would be very confused. You would probably hear someone screaming, “put the onion in the pot!” or “quick! Sell the soup!” You would think we are insane. Overall, running your own restaurant is super stressful especially when your brother decides to run around with a fire extinguisher when you just want to chop up onions.

“《Overcooked 2》IGN評分8.5分：瘋狂有創造力的派對遊戲” by SteamXO with a Public Domain Mark 1.0

Why Blame the Victim?

Why is one of the first things asked in cases of sexual harassment or assault is “what were you wearing?” or “had you been drinking?” That does not make it acceptable for someone touching you when you don’t want to be touched. Why does it seem like they try to find a reason to help out the one who assaulted the person? Maybe more people would be willing to step up and talk about what happened to them if they weren’t ridiculed for every small thing they did that in no way gives another reason to assault them.

To Control or Not?

I personally believe there should be more control when it comes to guns. It does not seem right that someone could walk into a store and get a gun in five minutes. Why isn’t there a more thought through process of background checks? I understand that there is an amendment that states your right to bear arms, but can you trust everyone? People want to say that guns don’t kill people, because they are inanimate objects. That makes sense, but the same people who say that believe guns will save you. That contradicts the first statement. In the end, its the person that does the killing and saving. You don’t know everyone’s minds, so why would you trust them without the background check? In the light of the recent school shootings, there is the debate to put guns in schools. To me, that makes no sense. What if the teacher in possession of the weapon decides to do something drastic? Or what if a student gets a hold of it and accidentally or intentionally sets it off. The death count could be worse then it has been. Why not metal detectors? Obviously, there are ways to get around it, but to keep people safe you got to do what you got to do. I’m interested in anyone who has another opinion and I am willing to listen if you wish to have a civil conversation about it.

“07a.GunControl.WhiteHouse.WDC.19January2015” by Elvert Barnes  with a 2.0 generic CC License

Opinions

Why are opinions so hard to say? No one wants to hear that your opinion is stupid or doesn’t matter. You are going to have your own opinion and I’ll have my own. Sometimes it will end with someone’s opinion being changed or it will go with the saying, “We’ll just have to agree to disagree.” There are ways to have a civil conversation without getting into a huge argument that will leave both parties ticked.

“Civil”  by Nick Youngson with a CC BY-SA 3.0 license

3 strikes and you’re out? Or one?

In baseball, you have 3 chances before you strike out at bat. In football, you have 4 downs before the opposing team gets possession of the football. Even in my English class I get an extra chance to fix my mistakes before they are graded for accuracy. The new immigration policy doesn’t allow legal immigrants to fix their mistakes. Messing up what seems to be small things on documents to become a citizen causes them to lose their money and deported. Some spend years to come up with the money to try to get a green card (which roughly costs $1760).  Before this policy came out on September 11th, 2018, they were given an extra chance to fix their mistakes while be given more documents. I strongly believe that everyone deserves a fair chance in everything. If they are actually trying to become a citizen, why would you keep them from that? Some are running from the worst times of their lives and trying to make a better life for themselves. I believe the policy should be like it was before where they would get an extra chance, but also have to deal with the consequences of getting more documents

“Progress For Women Is Progress For Everyone” & “We Are All Immigrants” Signs At The May Day Immigration Rights Rally (Washington, DC)” by takomabibelot under a public domain license.

Who does the dress code actually protect?

When the dreaded words ‘dress code’ is mentioned at school, it causes most women to roll their eyes.  People might say ‘it’s to help them dress for success.’, but what does that honestly mean though?  Does showing off my shoulders and collarbones not make me successful in how I learn at school?  Is the dress code meant to get boys from being distracted?  Are you saying they can’t control themselves?  You go to school to learn, not be worried you’ll be pulled out of class because your shirt doesn’t cover your backside when you wear leggings.  “This is what dress codes actually do  ” is a video that gives first-hand accounts from students who have gone through dress code violations at their own schools.  I believe that the dress code can cause women to feel ashamed. It’s embarrassing and demeaning to go through. I believe we need to be more lenient on how we tell others to dress. If you think it will distract boys then maybe you should have a meeting with the boys on how they should act instead of telling girls to cover up. We are not here for your ‘boys will be boys’ crap.